The Fishman Beley Family Law Primer
Family Law 101
Custody and Parenting of Children

The Fishman Beley Family Law Primer gives you an understanding of the language and terminology used in custody cases. The topics we deal with here are:

Dealing with custody of children during separation and divorce proceedings can be a tremendous burden for families. Fishman Beley are experienced child custody lawyers in Winnipeg and will help you get all the information you need.

Custody during the Relationship

Custody of children typically is taken to mean and include which parent makes the decisions, who can give consent on behalf of a child, and where the children will live from time to time. If you need a child custody lawyer in Winnipeg, contact Fishman Beley.

The parents of children, while the family is intact, are said to have “joint custody” of them. Each, prior to separation, has all of the rights and obligations respecting their children, subject only to the court's oversight jurisdiction in the case of abuse or neglect, or the provisions of criminal law.

What this means is that the parents are responsible for the care, protection, health, education and welfare of their children. Each parent has the right and duty to act responsibly for the children. Each can make whatever decision is required, give any consent, and each has full responsibility for parental duties to their children. When the parents don’t agree, they must find a solution that works for their family. Unfortunately, this kind of disagreement can sometimes mean that they will separate and seek the court’s assistance.

Custody after Separation

Contested custody battles can be about profound and intractable differences that go to the core of human existence while, at other times, the parties are fighting over terminology or mundane trivialities.

On separation, unless the parents agree otherwise, or the court on application makes an order, they continue to have joint custody.

The typical formulations of custody, after separation, are sole custody to one parent with the other having access or visiting rights, or the parties may retain joint custody, with physical care and control being divided between them. This division can be equal or some other formulation. The question of decision-making authority often takes centre stage in the disputes between the parties.

Major Changes To The Divorce Act Respecting Children

 

Sweeping amendments to the Divorce Act made in 2019 and effective July 1, 2020 are intended to reform the landscape of custody determinations:

 

  • Terminology - Major changes to the language of custody are intended to lessen the contested “winning and losing” paradigm by changing the way children’s issues are described in court orders.
  • The language of “custody” has been scrapped, deemed outmoded and counter-productive to the best interests of children. Now the focus will be on “parenting time” instead of the sole custody, care and control language used in separation proceedings. There is now more focus on the separate category of “decision-making responsibility”.
  • “Custody orders” under the amended Divorce Act will now be styled as “Parenting Orders” which will set out each parent’s responsibilities, rights, and obligations, with respect to their children and may include requirements respecting communication.
  • These Parenting Orders may also include provisions allocating parental decision-making responsibility, such as the right to make significant decisions about children, their health, religion, language, significant extracurricular activities, and education.
  • Dispute Resolution – The amended Divorce Act now creates a positive duty on the parties and their lawyers to encourage the use of family dispute resolution processes; the court has the power to direct the parties to a dispute resolution process.
  • Voice of the child - Subject to the child’s age and maturity, the court must consider the child’s views. How these views are to be transmitted to the court is not specified. Currently, the primary method is through an assessment.
  • Maximum Parenting Time – A new principle, which stops short of demanding equality of parenting time, requires the court to give effect to the principle that “a child should have as much time with each spouse as is consistent with the best interests of the child” when allocating parenting time.
  • Parenting Plans – The court can now include the components of a parenting plan created by the parents.
  • Contact Orders, will allow a non-parent, such as a grandparent or extended family member, to apply for an order to have time taken from the child’s schedule to spend with the child. The test here is somewhat less onerous than the provisions in the province’s Child and Family Services Act.
  • Best Interests of the Child - The test to be applied by the court in making any order respecting the parenting of children is “What is in the Best Interests of the Child?”, having regard to “the child’s physical, emotional and psychological safety, security and well-being”. The amended Act now articulates the various factors to be considered in the “Best Interests” test. See below.
  • Family Violence - The issue of family violence and its effect on children is recognized as a critical factor in their lives. It is defined broadly and is built into the Best Interests test. and an expanded definition of family violence is set out to assist the court.
  • Relocation or Mobility Issues - The Divorce Act now deals specifically with parental relocation with children where such moves are seen to have a “significant impact” on the child’s relationship with the other parent or other person with whom they have contact.

Joint Legal Custody

The term "joint custody", while often confused with equal “shared parenting”, speaks mainly to the “legal” side of things; that is, the ability to give legal consent or to make legal decisions for a child. Parents share joint custody during their cohabitation and continue to so after separation unless they agree or a court orders otherwise. It is not dependent on where the children actually live, that is, how the parents share physical “care and control”.

When a court orders that the parties shall have joint custody, it simply means each parent can make all of the decisions and has all of the same rights as the other respecting the child, as previously, for example, to give medical consent or enrol the child in a school.


Some people, in the post-separation period, are able to agree on what is best for the children and find ways to manage their lives and those of the children, peaceably, without formal agreements or court orders. They are the wise and lucky ones, and their children have the best chance of surviving their parent’s separation.

Best Interests of the Child

 

When the court makes a determination of the custody, care and control of children it is governed by answering the test question: "What is in the best interests of the child?” Statutory guidance as to the meaning of this test can be found in The Family Maintenance Act and The Child and Family Services Act and the thousands of reported cases interpreting those guidelines in the light of the myriad array of facts to be found in them.

What will be in the best interests of children remains a flexible concept, as current ideas, social mores and the fruits of research change over time. An appreciation of the test will include considerations of the age of the child, the past history of care, a recognition of the need for stability in the child's life, the parent's respective custody plans, the willingness of the parents to involve the other in the child’s life, the specific needs of the child, the drive to keep children together, and may also include taking account of financial, moral or religious issues.

Each case is different, so it can be difficult to predict outcomes. Sometimes, the reality is that the court is required to choose “the least detrimental alternative.”

 

Manitoba’s Family Maintenance Act currently defines “the best interests of the child” in a non-exhaustive fashion to include:

 

a) the nature, quality and stability of the relationship between
    i) the child and each parent seeking custody or access, and
   ii) the child and other significant individuals in the child's life;
b) the child's physical, psychological, educational, social, moral and emotional needs, including the need for stability, taking into consideration the child's age and stage of development;
c) the impact on the child of any domestic violence, including consideration of
    i) the safety of the child and other family and household members who care for the child,
   ii) the child's general well-being,
   iii) whether the parent who perpetrated the domestic violence is able to care for and meet the needs of the child, and
   iv) the appropriateness of making an order that would require the parents to co-operate on issues affecting the child;
d) the ability and willingness of each parent to communicate and co-operate on issues affecting the child;
e) the willingness of each parent seeking custody to facilitate the relationship between the child and the other parent;
f) any special needs of the child, including special needs for care, treatment or education;
g) the proposed plan of care for the child, including the capacity of the parent seeking custody or access to provide a safe home, adequate food, clothing and medical care for the child;
h) the history of the care arrangements for the child;
i) the effect on the child of any disruption of the child's sense of continuity;
j) the views and preferences of the child, where the court considers it appropriate to ascertain them;
k) the child's cultural, linguistic, religious and spiritual upbringing and heritage.


The Divorce Act will now stipulate (as of July 1, 2020) that the primary consideration in parenting cases shall be the best interests test, the “child’s safety, security and well-being”, and further that parents must now conduct themselves in relation to their children in accordance with the children’s best interest and to protect the child from conflict arising from the proceedings.


The Divorce Act amendments articulate a list of non-exhaustive factors which will inform the court’s deliberations of what is in the best interests of the child. This list, while repeating most of the provisions of our provincial statute, are worth restating:


a) the child’s needs, given the child’s age and stage of development, such as the child’s need for stability; 
b) the nature and strength of the child’s relationship with each spouse, each of the child’s siblings and grandparents and any other person who plays an important role in the child’s life; 
c) each spouse’s willingness to support the development and maintenance of the child’s relationship with the other spouse; 
d) the history of care of the child; 
e) the child’s views and preferences, giving due weight to the child’s age and maturity, unless they cannot be ascertained; 
f) the child’s cultural, linguistic, religious and spiritual upbringing and heritage, including Indigenous upbringing and heritage; 
g) any plans for the child’s care; 
h) the ability and willingness of each person in respect of whom the order would apply to care for and meet the needs of the child; 
i) the ability and willingness of each person in respect of whom the order would apply to communicate and cooperate, in particular with one another, on matters affecting the child; 
j) any family violence and its impact on, among other things, 
   i) the ability and willingness of any person who engaged in the family violence to care for and meet the needs of the child, and
  ii) the appropriateness of making an order that would require persons in respect of whom the order would apply to cooperate on issues affecting the child; and
k) any civil or criminal proceeding, order, condition, or measure that is relevant to the safety, security and well-being of the child.

Sole Custody

“Sole custody” usually means that one parent will have sole legal and primary physical custody, with the other parent having “access” or “visiting rights.” A child whose parents have never lived together after her birth is deemed to be in the sole custody of the parent with whom she is living. This of course can be changed by the court on application.

 

The parent with sole custody can make all major decisions respecting the child. Generally, that parent will also have the right, subject to a court ruling otherwise, or being in breach of an access order, to move with the child to another province or country.

 

The courts, which only a couple of decades ago were reluctant to order joint custody where the parents showed an inability to work together, are now just as reluctant to order sole custody, except in unusual circumstances, such as where the other parent is seen as unfit, or absent. Most cases now see the parents having “joint custody.”

Primary Care and Control

Sometimes the court will designate one parent as having “primary care and control,” which, on its simplest level, means that the children reside most of the time with one of the parents. For child support purposes, the primary parent will typically have care of the child over 60% of the time throughout the year and the other parent will pay the table amount. See our Primer of Child Support.


The term “primary” has, however, taken on a different gloss to imply that one parent is in a position to dictate certain things, that is, make decisions, by virtue of that designation, whether or not that decision making power has been decided. This follows from the decision of the Manitoba Court of Appeal in Lamont-Daneault v. Daneault, in which they determined that decision-making should usually reside with the primary parent.

Split Custody

In a "split custody" case – that is, where there are at least 2 children, one of whom is living with each parent more than 60% of the time – the court performs the mathematic exercise of determining the table amount for each parent for the child in the primary care of the other parent and offsetting one against the other. The court has no discretion about the amount of support payable in a split custody case. Usually one party pays the net amount, that is, the difference between the two amounts. See our discussion about the tax issues that might arise.

Shared Custody

A “shared custody” arrangement is, as defined by the Child Support Guidelines, about which you will find more in our Primer on Child Support, is defined as one where a child's physical custody is shared between the parents with each having the child in his or her care between 40% and 60% of the time over the year.

This percentage is important as the court will have the rare opportunity of determining child support other than as dictated by the Guidelines. This can, unfortunately, be a trigger for claims of shared custody not so much having to do with the best interests of the children, but for the goal of having to pay a reduced amount of child support that might result.

Access

A non-custodial parent, as the other parent in a sole custody situation is often called, may seek to have “access” or “visitation rights” to the child. While this gives the non-custodial parent and child an opportunity to spend time together, that parent is not, without more from the court, entitled to make decisions for the child beyond the provision of day-to-day care.

Supervised Access

In those cases where a parent and child cannot, or should not, spend time together alone, the court may order supervised access. The list of reasons is not exhaustive. In some cases, the parent cannot be trusted to care for the child, or be trusted to remain calm, or to not say inappropriate things to the child. Sometimes the need for supervision may be responsive to the needs or best interests of the child.


Supervision can be by a family member, friend, other interested and trustworthy third party, or by a professional. 


The Winnipeg Children’s Access Agency (WCAA) is a low-cost and professional alternative that works well in many of these kinds of cases. The WCAA requires the parents to agree to a set of terms and conditions which include the parents arriving at their facility separately.


Visits can last up to 2 hours, but may be terminated earlier in the supervisor’s discretion. The supervisor’s role is to observe and provide limited guidance where appropriate. They do make notes of the visits which can be subpoenaed to court if required. The cost to the parties is minimal. There is usually a waiting list.

Physical Care and Control

Physical care and control is the practical side of joint custody; that is, the determination of where the children will live. The division of physical custody or "care and control" can be agreed upon or ordered by the court. It may be as simple or complicated as the parties’ lives and the best interests of the children dictate or require. The division of the children's time with each parent may be as simply put as "the parties may agree" or can be highly structured down to the minute details of time, who picks up and returns the children, where, what will be sent with them, and so on and so on.


Complex arrangements require flexibility, consideration, and compromise to work well. For those who do not get along, parties may try to program their lives and the lives of their children in exquisite detail. The courts are usually reluctant to impose complicated solutions on families without agreement, but hard cases demand decisions.


The courts have also approved other formulations avoiding the language of custody, such as descriptions avoiding this terminology altogether, using simple statements such as "the children will live with mother" on certain days and "live with father" on other designated days.

Decision-Making Authority

When cohabiting parents disagree about decisions respecting their children, a power struggle may ensue. The dispute will get resolved in the style that family uses, but no one, short of the child coming into the child welfare system for reasons of neglect or abuse, or coming into the arena of the criminal law, will have the authority to tell them what to do. Often enough, however, these kinds of conflicts figure in the breakup itself.


On separation, the power to make decisions is often hotly contested. In reality, however, there are few such decisions that most parents can’t or won’t work out.


Typically, disputes about decisions will be found in matters of education, health choices and activities. There is often an intersecting interest in relation to those decisions, such as a parent’s time and involvement or the cost of the choice. For example, the choice of enrolment of a child in a sports program, such as hockey, might impose on both parents’ time and responsibilities and the cost can be prohibitive. There are often child support considerations under The Child Support Guidelines for what are known as Section 7 expenses. See the Fishman Beley Primer on Child Support.

Courts can divide decision-making or give it all to one parent, but will usually insist on meaningful consultation or mediation before the decision is made and will generally allow such a dispute to be adjudicated by the court, if necessary.

Right to Information

Unless the court orders otherwise, the non-custodial parent has the same rights as the sole-custodial parent to obtain school, medical and other reports respecting the child. At Fishman Beley, we will often recommend to our clients that they ensure the child’s school, daycare, or other service providers – including doctors, dentists and counsellors – are aware of the parental separation and are instructed to provide duplicate notices and reports.


The right to obtain information is not the right to demand the generation of reports and the like, however. That may require the consent of both parents or may fall to the decision-making parent’s authority.

Mobility

A major issue for many parents in modern society where the adult population is increasingly mobile – usually for work, but also for other personal purposes – is what happens to the children when one parent wants to move to another city, province or country.

 

 

The court can put terms, conditions or restrictions on custody. Often the right to move with the children out of the province or even significantly far away from the other parent within the province is restricted or at least suspended pending an application on that behalf.

 

The issue has been dealt with by the Supreme Court of Canada in the case of Gordon v. Goertz. Essentially, the court held that the issue was to be decided on the best interests test, and when challenged by an application by the other parent, the sole custodial parent did not have an automatic right to remove the child.

 

Amendments to the Divorce Act set out obligations on the moving parent to give specific notice (in forms to be shortly published) in timely ways of their intent to move and their proposal for ongoing parenting time. The court is tasked with additional factors as part of the best interests test, namely, to consider:

  • the reasons for the relocation
  • the impact of the move on the child
  • the amount of parenting time and the level of involvement in the child’s life of each
  • the existence of a provision specifying the geographic area in which the child is to reside
  • the reasonableness of moving person’s proposal to vary the exercise of parenting time, decision-making responsibility or contact
  • whether each person has complied with their existing obligations and the likelihood of future compliance

One of the Divorce Act amendments requires the court to not consider the double-bind question of whether the parent would move with or without the child. While some cases already have decided that the question is unfair, that objection is now the law.

 

Regulations will create forms which will be required to be served by the moving parent on the remaining parent, who, if they object to the proposed move, will register their objection also by means of a regulated form.

PARENTING PLANS

The amendments to the Divorce Act put new emphasis on encouraging the parties to negotiate their Parenting Plans which can be incorporated into their Parenting Orders. 

Parenting Plans can be comprehensive and detailed. The experienced lawyers of Fishman Beley will help you construct your personalized Parenting Plan. Parenting Plans will often include provision for the following:

  • the actual care schedule – this might include in addition to a description, the incorporation of a calendar
  • the sharing of holidays
  • travel and relocation protocols, including notice, itineraries, travel authorizations and passports
  • provision for third party contact
  • communication protocols (email, texts, phone calls, social media) between parents and between parents and children 
  • means of making changes to the schedule
  • general parenting guidelines, for e.g. diet, exposure to third parties, environmental considerations, discipline, bedtimes, third parties, cultural and religious considerations etc. 
  • child care – right of first option if one parent is not available during their time
  • how and where exchanges will work – authorized persons to receive or pick-up
  • medical and health plan information and coverage issues – claims coordination –protocols for choosing providers – how emergencies will be dealt with
  • educational issues, including choice of school, sharing of responsibilities an information, parental involvement and sharing of expenses – provision for post-secondary education
  • activities – choices and limitations – parental involvement – cost sharing
  • sharing of the child’s property between homes
  • changes and modifications to the plan – provisions for dispute resolution – mediation and arbitration

The forgoing is a simple list which is by no means exhaustive. There are hundreds of sample parenting plans and templates on the internet. The Department of Justice has an online Parenting Plan Tool which is a good start.

 

The trick is to ensure that your plan is individually suited to your family’s needs and takes into account the actual law in your jurisdiction. The lawyers at Fishman Beley have the experience to help you with your parenting plan.

CONTACT ORDERS, GRANDPARENT and OTHER THIRD PARTY ACCESS

When parents divorce and settle their custody and visitation issues between themselves, it is not only the parties and children who might be affected. Important relationships that the child might have with grandparents, other family members, other care-givers or other persons can be altered with profound effect on the child.

 

Where upon separation or divorce, one or the other parent determines that they will no longer honour those relationships, or because a parent may no longer have their own parenting rights to share with those significant others, those relatives or third parties may need to seek the court’s assistance.

 

Current provisions of The Child and Family Services Act of Manitoba allow a grandparent, step-parent or other member of a child's family to apply for visiting rights to a child. The test under that provincial statute requires consideration of what is in the best interests of the child and consideration of the grandparent/grandchild relationship, the potential benefits to the child, the nature of the relationship, and consideration of the mental, emotional and physical needs of the child.

 

The Child and Family Services Act also allows for the possibility that non-family members – such as a former babysitter, family friend or other person who might have established a significant relationship with the child – in an exceptional case – should have the right to access to a child.

 

The court can order, among other things, that the child spend time with the applicant, have them attend special events, receive gifts and communicate, and that the applicant receive pictures and information about the child.

 

The court can make provision for contact orders with non-parents which might take place during the parenting time of another person and can also provide for communication between children and third parties. The court may impose conditions, such as supervision.

Assessments, Home Studies and Brief Consultations

Contested custody cases can be lengthy, bitter and expensive, so the courts and the frequently updated legislation attempt to encourage and require the parties and lawyers to undertake serious efforts to explore alternate means of Dispute Resolution.

 

Children are not welcome witnesses in court. The court will usually prohibit a minor child from testifying, notwithstanding how adamant a parent might be about it, and most judges will not engage in meeting with the child in chambers as happened occasionally in the past. There is merit to hearing the child’s voice and to have unbiased objective evidence of the child’s wellbeing. One of the ways in which the child’s voice gets to be heard is through an assessment or home study report.

 

Assessments are typically performed by professionals in social work or psychology with the goal of providing expert evidence to the court about the children’s best interests, the capacity of the parents in their parenting role and what living arrangements might be seen as optimum.

 

Typically, assessors will familiarize themselves with the court file, spend time with the parents, see the children in the care of each parent and – subject to the child’s age and maturity – may interview the child on his or her own.

 

Usually, each parent and the children will be observed in their home. Some assessors will use psychometric testing as an aid and most will speak to a selection of collateral third parties and other professionals involved in the child’s life, usually as nominated by the parties.

 

After the interview and data gathering process is completed, a report setting out findings and recommendations is prepared. These sometimes run to 100 pages or more. The maker of the report can be cross-examined at the trial. It is important to note that the court is not bound to follow the recommendations contained in an assessment.

Family Conciliation Assessments

Assessments are available at no cost to the parties, on court order, when undertaken by the Family Conciliation Service connected to the court. It currently takes about 6 to 9 months from the time the assessment is ready to be undertaken – there is usually a lengthy wait list – until completion.


Motions for the appointment of a family evaluator are now made to a Master of the court. The Master will need to be convinced that an assessment is required. While the appointment of Family Conciliation is usually general in nature, the Master can order a more specific type of assessment.

Private Assessments

The parties may wish to hire a private professional, such as a social worker or psychologist, to perform the assessment, and one or both of the parties will be responsible for the costs, either by agreement or by court order. These private assessments, while having the advantage of giving the parties greater control over the process, and may be quicker, can cost thousands of dollars depending on the assessor and the work involved.

Brief Consultation

The Family Conciliation Service will also undertake a Brief Consultation with the parties and children, upon an appropriate court order, which will usually be completed within 30 days.

This form of assessment is usually limited to office interviews and to older children, typically at least 11 or 12 years old. It’s often employed where the parties are unable to agree upon what the child is actually saying about his or her preferred living arrangements. It is important to note that there is no rule that says a 12-year old child has the right to decide where he or she will live. This is one of the more popular and destructive myths in family law.

FOR THE SAKE OF THE CHILDREN

Where there is a dispute on custody or care and control issues, the court requires that the parties complete the parent information program called For the Sake of the Children. A completion certificate will be filed in court.


This program is run by the Family Conciliation Service attached to the court. These are the same personnel who perform court ordered assessments and brief consultations.


Parents will typically attend two separate sessions each and will not attend at the same time as the other. For persons living outside an area in which the program can be accessed, there is a DVD version which can be made available.


The program outlines good parenting practices on separation and gives the parties guidance on what is seen as typical or advisable for children of various ages and stages.


Information about the course is available through the Family Conciliation Service connected to the court – the telephone number is 204-945-7236.

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