For most of our clients, their family law case is their first taste of the law and courts. It can be in intimidating prospect and experience. Our job is to assure you, as best we can, of the potential outcomes and to advise you of your rights.

To be realistic, most family law cases are resolved short of a trial. The achievement of settlement can happen at any step along the way. The lawyers of Fishman Beley, Family Law Associates want to help you settle your case, but we have the experience to go to court when appropriate or necessary.

Terry Beley has been practicing since 1976, 41 years, and Len Fishman has been practising family law since 1975, 42 years. Noah Fishman was called to the Bar in 2013, after articling with us and has been practising family law since then.

We understand family law and have participated actively in its changes over the last 4 decades. Len Fishman and Terry Beley have been actively involved in legislative changes, education of our peers and the public, and committee work. We’ve been involved in reported cases that have helped to move the law along. Experience has taught us many things, and we try to bring them to the table.

There are many different ways to settle a family law case, often called “alternative dispute resolution,” such as through negotiation, mediation, case conferencing, and “without prejudice” correspondence or meetings. These are tools which can be used alone or in combination.

We will seek to ensure you work with full information and practical guidance in dealing with the core issues of custody, support or property and incidental and related issues. Our mission is to provide sound advice on a practical and ethical basis.


Reconciliation is sometimes the answer and it is the court and every lawyer’s duty to explore the possibility, unless it is clearly out of the question.

The law provides for periods of attempted reconciliation and protects discussions with professionals by making them inadmissible in court proceedings.


Almost everything in a family law case is or should be negotiable, and it is usually in the parties’ individual and collective interests to settle as many issues as possible. A negotiated result is one that the parties make and own. Typically, the cost is significantly less and the result is one that suits the parties and their children, rather than a result that can seem arbitrary and disconnected when imposed by a judge.

Without Prejudice

Negotiations are usually undertaken in a “without prejudice” context.

Lawyer’s letters will often be marked “without prejudice” and most meetings will proceed on the basis that the discussions are “without prejudice.” What this means is that nothing said or written on a “without prejudice” basis can be used in subsequent court proceedings (except in a rare case where there is a dispute as to whether or not an agreement was reached). This allows the parties to speak freely without being bound by their offers or suggestions in the negotiation process.

A Level Playing Field

We believe that negotiations must take place in the context of complete and candid financial disclosure and in a climate of mutual respect. Unless the playing field is level, the parties on an equal footing from an emotional and informational point of view, a proper and fair deal cannot be made.

We see ourselves as collaborative in our approach to innovative and practical problem solving solutions, but we do not belong to the Collaborative Group, because if and when negotiations break down, that process requires each of the parties to hire new lawyers. While their contract gives the lawyers and parties an incentive to work things out, we believe that the shotgun approach can be unfair to the clients.

Again, while courts are seen as a last resort, our experience in them can inform and work well as the background to resolution.


Mediation is a dispute resolution mechanism usually involving both parties meeting separately or together with an independent person trained in mediation. If the mediation is successful, it will lead to an agreement, which the parties can then ratify with the assistance of their lawyers.

The process is usually on a "without prejudice" basis; that is, it is a form of negotiation that cannot be referred to in subsequent proceedings, so that each of the parties is free to explore different possibilities without being held to their positions. The mediator must be independent and the parties must be free to negotiate for it to be successful.

Parties to mediation should have independent legal advice before, during, and after mediation to ensure they understand the issues and are not unduly pressured. Where there has been a history of physical or mental abuse between the parties, mediation is not recommended.

Mediation is highly recommended in custody and access cases. While custody and access are the areas most commonly mediated, some private mediators will also perform comprehensive mediation incorporating financial issues such as support and property issues.

While typically the parties must agree to mediation, the court does have the power to refer parties to mediation. Nothing, however, can require the parties to be actively involved or to be genuinely committed to the process.

Comprehensive Mediation Services

Among the resources available is the Comprehensive Mediation Services, offered by the Family Conciliation Service of the court, which uses a lawyer trained in mediation and a social worker who work together as co-mediators. The service is open to families with children undergoing dissolution. Referrals may come from the courts, lawyers, other agencies or the parties themselves.

Prospective participants will be required to attend the "For the Sake of the Children" parent information program. There will be an initial screening for suitability and an explanation of the process. The parties can include their lawyers in the process. There is no direct cost of the mediation to the participants, but they will be responsible for related costs such as appraisals or other consultations such as with their lawyers. Participants are expected to provide feedback and evaluation of the program.

Sessions will be co-mediated and it is expected there will be 3 to a maximum of 6 sessions leading to a written Memorandum of Agreement reflecting agreed issues which are then forwarded to the parties' respective lawyers. The parties are advised that the draft agreement is not binding on them and they are encouraged to obtain independent legal advice.

While the co-mediators will provide legal information, they will not provide legal advice.


Arbitration is an alternative dispute resolution tool that is gaining in popularity. Essentially, the process, when governed by The Arbitration Act of Manitoba, will lead to a binding result between the parties that can be enforced as a judgment of the court. While custody issues can be arbitrated, the courts of Manitoba retain the jurisdiction to override those determinations in an appropriate case.

If the parties agree to arbitration, they can negotiate the terms of their arbitration, what will be arbitrated, what the process will be, pick their arbitrator, and determine how the arbitrator will be paid. Often, the parties will agree to a process that will start with mediation, which, if it breaks down, will then become an arbitration.

Terry Beley and Len Fishman both do arbitration work. Typically, their appointment will be by the agreed choice of the parties’ lawyers, but can also come directly from the parties.

While there might be the additional cost of paying the arbitrator to consider, arbitration can offer a private, faster, tailored and ultimately less expensive result than the court process.

Arbitration, essentially a private court system, which is available for most other aspects of a family law case, is not useful in custody cases in Manitoba, as the courts in this province maintain jurisdiction over custody matters. Other jurisdictions, such as Ontario, make special provision allowing the arbitration of custody matters.

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Fishman Beley Family Law Associates

812-363 Broadway

Winnipeg, MB R3C 3N9


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